FEELINGS DON'T CHANGE OVERNIGHT!
We all want to start the new year fresh.
These past few days I've been reading a lot of blog posts like "moving on" and "not bring the same guy in 2018". But honestly, really? Can you change your feelings overnight?
Reality check -- no.
People who know me might not realize that I had my share of failures in relationships, which included people playing with my feelings (just because they find me too nice and most of the time I go the extra mile if I like them). Most of the time, I want to punch myself in the face because I never learn but hopefully with writing this post, I, myself, will learn the art of moving on.
"There's no quick solution with moving on and I am a firm believer that moving on takes time and perseverance."
THE ART OF MOVING ON
- MOVING ON IS NOT FORCING YOURSELF TO UNLIKE THE PERSON BUT RATHER TO LOVE YOURSELF MORE.
It would be a lie and full of bullsh*t if I tell you straight in the face that I don’t like the person anymore. I’m sure I’m going to welcome the new year with the same exact feeling. As much as I want to start of the year with nearly zero affection, I am 100% certain it would not be possible; and that will be very challenging for me. However, I know my year will begin with so much positivity because finally I put myself first.
In most cases, people who are infatuated tends to put others before themselves. We are likely to do things we don't usually do and try our best to adopt their system because it is our way to leave a good impression, an expression that we care. But you should understand that loving yourself first should be the case. Don't let your feelings deviate you from your usual self and you'll be surprised at how much people will appreciate you for just being you.
- MOVING ON IS NOT TAKING REVENGE AGAINST THE OTHER PERSON
Go ahead and pamper yourself, go to the nearest salon and change the color of your hair, go to the gym, change your diet routine, overhaul your wardrobe and have fun as much as you want. You deserve it because I am sure that you got exhausted in dealing with your mixed feelings. Reward yourself with whatever you think would make you happy -- but do it for the right reasons.
Do it because you want to charge of yourself, not because you want to take revenge. Revenge is never sweet and you will only make yourself look stupid.
- MOVING ON IS FORGIVING YOURSELF AND THE OTHER PERSON
A friend told me that if I'm tired, I should just take a break but if I'm exhausted then maybe its time to stop, leave and move forward. Every time that I decide that I will start moving forward, I always pray to God to guide me; because I know for a fact that this is going to be a long and hard battle. I seek forgiveness for myself because I drained my emotions and got physically exhausted.
At the same time, I'll talk to the other person and apologize for trying to force a spark that wasn't even there to begin with.
Truthfully speaking, I will not close my door but I have to secure and guard my heart first. I need to heal and be okay for myself. Besides, how can you love other people if you can't even love yourself, right?
With my situation, I think it is more proper that I have to balance my emotions before opening my heart again. For now, I guess it is better to focus on rebuilding myself to be a better person and who knows? maybe he'll be there or someone better is actually waiting.
Happy New Year and I wish nothing but the best for everyone!